the Story of Brad and Sara

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Friday, September 18

Traits to avoid?

I found this blog today, I thought this might be of interest. The blog is called "Traits to avoid in people you date" by MidoriLei from the Blog Dating Advice from a Girl

Reading through these 'traits' reminded me of some 'mistakes' I've made in the past. I've also found these traits as a model of what not to become.

Dating can be viewed as either a numbers game or a game of high selection. Whereas you can date many people, trying to narrow down the traits you are in need of or more commonly you can selectively prejudge people, attempting to find the value you seek, before engaging with the person. In the later, where people mostly judge-a-book... we look for those more obvious traits such as these examples from 'Traits...'
  • Gossips
  • Is overly angry
  • Plays “one up”
  • Is an addict
Unfortunately there are few bad traits that can be recognized on the surface, and because of that highly selective people may actually be doing them selves a disservice. I myself have taken this approach, with little long-term success.

Dating many different people has the advantage and ability to read poeple over time and ascertain what may be a good or bad trait. This also helps develop a more distinguished model of who you'd give your life to.

In all honestly and jokes aside, I have found Sara to be one of the more stable and responsible women I have dated. I can't say that she is perfect, but I can say she lacks all of the bad traits that I deplore. When we just started to get to know each other, I could tell Sara was attempting to identify possible issues. Though i must admit, that I as well tested her grounds.

In the end we figured we may as well give a try, I mean how can you actually know if someone who displays bad traits on the surface actually harbors and exhibits such personality... Until you try.

Tuesday, September 15

re: Can you hear me?

“Here I am throwing compliments his way and he's not even listening.”
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Boy oh Boy! We were having a great afternoon driving around, telling stories. Sara started talking about her experiences from my BBQ and some jazz about having a good time. Meanwhile, I drift into thought about that beautiful day and the awesome dress she wore. Sara ends her sentence with a question, I say “Huh, I wasn't listening?”

The last time she noticed my attention lapse, she redirected to her shirt and how it came off. Now that is how you get my attention!

Saturday, September 5

re: Party with the bosses

“Brad casually places his hand on what he thought was my knee.”
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Sara invited me to a party last night, it was for her boss that was leaving.

Her boss was very funny and the rest of the people she worked with were also entertaining. Everyone got along and of course they all loved me.

Everybody was telling funny stories about her boss. Some stories included Sara, which I immediately had to antagonize and provoke. In the middle of one story I reach over and put my hand on Sara's knee, everybody pauses and I hear "Hey! what are you doing!", everybody laughs at Sara's plea, then I realize I had my hand on her co-workers leg.

So I chuckled and while keeping my left hand on her co-workers knee, I place the other on Sara and say "Hey nothing wrong here, just hanging with my ladies."

Thursday, September 3

Jealousy, it can work both ways

Sara and I had plans to go out the other night. I met Sara at her place and waited as she finished getting ready.

I was just chillin on her couch when I hear her roommate yell "...bye Sara, by Jeff." I look over at Sara and I find her fighting to hold back a smile. Then her roommate opens the door and says "Oh, I'm sorry Brad" then they both start laughing.

I begin realize, this is just Sara trying to get a reaction out of me. She always says I never let her win and this is the product. What Sara doesn't know, is that I am perceptive to these types of situations. So I just sat back, relaxed, then said "It's okay Laura, I mean Sara."

See Sara's reply    re: Jealousy, Both ways